If you have children and you are thinking of divorce, you may be wondering how they will cope with a shared custody situation. Part of helping your kids deal with shared custody is creating and maintaining a strong co-parenting plan. Fortunately, there are various resources available to help you stay organized. For instance, there are online programs that you and your soon-to-be ex-husband can access to use for scheduling visitations, after-school activities and various other events.
In addition to cloud-based applications, there are few other tips that can help you co-parent successfully. The following list contains valuable information as you navigate the challenge of a shared custody arrangement.
Try to see things both from your kids’ perspective and your ex-husband’s. If you look at things from their point of view, you might be better able to understand their feelings. Listen to your children’s feelings and allow them to express themselves. In addition, if you treat your ex the way you want him to treat you, it will go a long way toward making the custody situation much easier.
Scheduling is probably one of the most difficult tasks you will face. As you know, things can change and nothing is set in stone. This is especially true when it comes to schedules. Be open and flexible and definitely expect the unexpected. If your ex has to change, at the last minute, the time he is picking up your kids, keep in mind that, at some point, it might be you who has to make a change.
Another important thing to remember is that you should not use your children as message carriers. It is not their responsibility to make sure you and your ex are coordinated. Instead, communicate directly with their father either face-to-face, via phone calls, text messages or email. This will also avoid the possibility of something getting lost in translation or the kids forgetting to pass the message.
If you are considering divorce and you have children, you should start working out a co-parenting plan as soon as possible. When it comes to the kids, it is important that you and your ex stay on the same page as much as possible.