Divorcing your husband is a big step. There are a few different ways that the divorce issues can be resolved. One of these is through mediation. When an agreement through mediation isn’t possible, you can have the court make determinations about what is going to happen with regard to child custody, property and other issues.
During the mediation process, you and your ex will have to work together with the help of a mediator to come to agreements over issues related to the divorce. There are several things you can do to make the mediation process a bit easier.
Identify your priorities
Before the mediation session, you have to think about what is truly important to you. This will be determined by what issues you have to address during the session. You can’t let your ex pull the focus onto himself. Instead, you need to make sure that you keep the focus on you and your needs. If you are concerned about forgetting something, make a list that you can refer to during the process.
Be willing to compromise but stay firm
Part of the reason why mediation works is that you and your ex work together to come up with the terms of the divorce. This means that you will have to compromise. Even though you do have to give a little while you negotiate, you do need to stand your ground. Don’t let your ex-husband railroad you into agreeing to something that you really don’t think is right or fair. Instead, stay focused on your goals.
Take a break when you need
The goal of mediation is negotiation, not fighting. If you find that your emotions are getting too elevated or if the other spouse is starting to get too pushy or cranky, you can take a break. In fact, you can stop and ask the mediator to speak to him or her alone. By the same token, your ex can also ask to meet with the mediator alone. Be respectful if he does this.
Remember your obligations and rights
Throughout the process, you need to remember that you do have certain rights and responsibilities. Keeping these at the front of your mind can ensure that your rights are respected and that you are holding up to your obligations. This is especially important if you are dealing with child custody and financial support issues during the mediation process. Also, if you have any questions or concerns, voice them with your attorney. An experienced family lawyer can help you and protect your rights through the entire process.